Bshalach 5785

Bshalach

The Manna in the desert was miraculous in many ways. One of the ways was the daily report of achievement of closeness to Hashem. The bigger the achievement, the closer to his tent the manna fell. Due to the energy and spiritual work extended, the effort needed to track down his manna was reduced, falling right at his tent. A Daily spiritual report card, or conversation about your achievement

What if a husband and wife separated? Though it was a “Dor Daeh”, a generation of knowledge and closeness to Hashem, they still struggled with disagreements and marriage. Though the struggle was more refined and the arguments on much higher levels, sometimes the woman returned to her father’s home. If it was the husbands’ fault, the Manna fell at her father’s home, and if the fault was with her, it fell at his tent. It doesn’t give an option of both responsible, or 50/50 split. Usually, there is one person trying to keep things running and functional and the

second ispulling out the energy and fueling dysfunction. The person keeping things running is the one usually blamed, and kept fined for being responsible, working and functional, they get to pay to support the one who wouldn’t.

One reason a person stays in a relationship, is out of habit and familiarity. The comfort of familiarity holds sway over fear of unknown, and seemingly insurmountable hurdles. But staying for familiarity, means in the face of increasing threat, the relationship wont stand. That would require trust. A relationship between mother and child can be one of comfort, but the child will not trust, unless the child understands that mother knows something I do not know. I can rely on her when it is above me. In times of trouble, she will have my back. Another example, going to the doctor requires the patient to put themselves in their care. They must trust the Dr has some expertise they do not, and the Dr is bigger than them in this area.

When a couple understands that he has expertise in his area of external, providing or

conquering the outside, which includes the spiritual realm, and she trusts in him, this allows his trust in her to grow. He sees her belief in him, which gives him the strength to give to her. This trust stands where comfort falls. It is the beginning of starting to love. This is what will give them their strength, and from there to start to grow.